Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. - Norman Cousins (An American political journalist, author, professor, and world peace advocate)
Would you try to impress people if there was no one to impress?
Would you try to talk if there was no one to hear you?
In fact, the very notion of talking implies that you have to have someone to talk to.
To want to be heard means that you must have an audience that you want it to hear. The real question is who is this audience?
You? Other people? Higher being?
All great questions but here we are only going to talk about our connection in regards to other people.
Here are the reasons why we want to be heard.
#1 - We are made to be part of a community.
A community is an essential part of our emotional well being. If we don’t have someone to talk to, we will go crazy. If you don't believe me, you could try not to talk to anyone for three months. No texting, no talking, no communication. It's not going to be enjoyable.
We always lived in groups, and it allowed us to survive. We share stories and bond over relationships and intimacy. Through emotions, people provide communal support for one another.
#2 - We have needs that need to be met.
I believe that to be heard as a person is an emotional need. One of the things that we as people really value is a true friend that listens to us, understand us, and won’t judge us.
For us, to have that true friend is invaluable. Bottling everything inside and not being able to share your burdens with anyone. That is a disaster waiting to happen.
Sadly, in this ever so connected social media world, people are lonelier than ever. It is harder and harder to develop reliable friendships because so much of human to human interaction is reduced to emojis & texts.
There is not enough time or space to build trust with each other. If we can't physically interact with each other, that emotional need can't be met.
We want to talk.
We want to share.
We want to connect.
All has to be done in person.
#3 - We have a desire to feel significant.
We all want to feel like somebody special. It’s very sad to feel like you are just another replaceable person. We want to be heard because we want ourselves to be acknowledged.
We want people to remember our existence, not out of desperation, but out of recognition.
If we respect ourselves, we will respect our existence, our presence, and our opinions. We want to be significant because it’s our nature.
However, there can also be a part of us that just longs for glory for ourselves beyond the basic respect as a person. When that happens, we might want to check our intent.
First Step -
What is something you do to protect yourself from peer pressure?
- Augustus
Losing Interests, Losing Relationships [Free PDF]
- Understanding the 5 CAUSES for an emotional wall between you and everyone else.