Summary
- So over time we realize money doesn’t help us with confidence, neither does being attractive. How can you tell? It’s that feeling inside of you that keeps having doubts about “What if _____ happened? Will I still be liked & accepted? Will people still look at me the same way?”. Of course none of us will ever reach a point where we don’t doubt at all. However, if the doubt is taking over inside of you, we all know that doesn’t end well. What is confidence? Will I ever get it? Let’s explore this topic together.
- Confidence is a feeling.
- Anyone can feel confident. - Confidence doesn’t just choose only certain individuals. If you don’t know what grows confidence, even natural confidence can be taken away. Too often we get locked into seeing one or trait that determines the whole way we interact with someone. Better shoes, smarter, richer, socially educated, etc. But we have to remember that people are dynamic. There are multitudes of factors affecting the way we communicate with one another. Confidence is a result of you feeling comfortable in midst of all these factors. Not that you are already successful that makes you confident, but understanding your true internal value as a person grounds your emotions.
- Confidence is when you feel like you don’t have to defend yourself.
- We can’t become more confident by making others feel worse about themselves. - The number one way people try to appear confident is by making sure there is no competition. But just because there is no competition, does that mean you are an amazing person? Nope. Especially in the earlier stages of our life, these tactics to appear confident happens way too often. This is bullying, isolation, mocking, making fun of others, and more. Ridiculing others to make them seem worse than you displays your own insecurities.
- A confident individual doesn’t feel threatened by other displays of strength. In fact, a confident person wants to help others become confident also, because he or she knows the world would benefit so much more from the hidden talents of everyone else.
- Confidence is gained through trials and challenges.
- Consistency in stepping into uncertainty is the habit of growth. - Nothing good comes easy. Only through tests and trials can you come out more confident. We all know that test brings out the weak points, so we can improve. But another underrated factor is the strength of your mentality. Your mental strength determines your persistence, focus, energy, which can’t be obtained by just studying. Embrace the challenges of growth, because the alternative is a future you didn’t want.
