Summary
- I remembered the time when I first failed my math exam. Couldn’t believe it. I REALLY felt like I was less of a person. My identity was shaken. Of course, there is more mistakes in this life than math tests. Missing deadlines at work. Regretting saying things to your significant other. Then it happens again and again. The same mistakes become a cycle, and our self esteem plummets with it. Sometimes it feels like we’re in the bottom of the ocean. Distanced and depressed. I doubt anyone wants to feel this way. I been there through a lot of my failures too. Will things ever change? How can we change it?
- You want to change, but are you committed to change?
- When we make a commit to change, it means no going back. You can fail, but you won’t give up. If you want to change, you have to be committed. Usually, people just go into a decision hoping it’s going to work out without any strategies or teachers. Know this: it’s time to learn. Doesn’t matter which life stage you are in, you can learn. You don’t go at a problem the same way every single time. You will get the same EXACT results every time. You examine your past result and ask yourself “What do I need to change?”, “What will make this work?”. Then apply to your next try. Repeat until success. I wish there is an easier way, but bottom line is any change is hard.
- When we change the way we think, we change the way we see the world.
- Start asking yourself “What can I learn from my mistakes?” - You have to shift your mentality in approaching the your failure. If you only see how much of a failure you are from it, you’re only going to make yourself feel worse. Everyone at some point starts from ground zero. Experts fail more times than the beginner could ever imagine. The difference here is with every failure the expert sees it as an opportunity to get better. Failures are revelations of potential improvements. Doesn’t it excite you that you can get even better? You have more room to grow, and failure shows you exactly what you need to work on.
- If you aren’t preparing to win, it won’t happen.
- Everyone wants to win, but few puts in the effort to prep for it. If you want to concentrate to read for 30 minutes, do you plan when you are going to read? Did you pick a location where you can concentrate? Did you have paper and pen for notes? These questions are your preparations. They help and make sure you succeed in reading for 30 minutes. So depending on what you are trying to work on, work projects or mending a past relationship, you have to plan to win. Think of all the potential distractions and try to eliminate them. After a strict diet, don’t leave cookie hanging around. Think ahead and know what your vulnerabilities are.