Have You Ever Been So Scared of Life Changes?

Summary

  • I used to dislike moving to new place, because it’s a complete new environment. Going on a vacation for a week is ok. Living there permanently is a complete different story. New people, new neighborhood and I lose all my past relationships. I just don’t know what was going to happen. That bothered me A LOT.
  • Experience of uncertainty.
    • I don’t know what’s going to happen. What if _____ happens?
  • We are naturally afraid of things we don’t know about.
    • It’s ok. We are all like this. - Why are so many people afraid of the dark? That’s because we don’t know what is in the darkness. You will never see in scary movie a completely bright scene, because darkness gives uncertainty. We don’t like what we don’t know. If you are scared of uncertainty, you are like the rest of us. Join the club! What separates people is after they feel scared, one will choose to do it anyways and the other one stays back.
    • Step out of your fear and understand that this is part of human nature.
  • Any form of growth only happens through changes.
    • By facing the change with boldness, it grows you. - When we face change head on, we exercise the courage muscle. The muscle is “when there is a challenge, I face it boldly.” Only through exercising this courage muscle do we grow. The alternative is not taking action towards a challenge or avoid it. We also use a muscle here except it pulls us down. It’s the “if there is a challenge, I don’t do anything or avoid it. The truth is everything that we do moves us closer or away from our goals. There are no neutral actions. Even doing nothing is preventing you from reaching your goal.
    • Sometimes we don’t want change or just try to get it over with, but the change itself is the opportunity to grow. - A lot of times we want the reward that comes with success but not the process TO success. This type of thinking misses the whole point of growth. Why do we respect the champions? Because they put in the work and grind to get there. If they lost the trophy, would they still be the champions? Of course! The trophy is a reward to the champions. Champions are respect because we know their superb abilities. If someone just bought a Superbowl ring, would he/she be considered a Superbowl Champion? You get my point.
  • Changes might be scary, but the lesson is worth it.
    • First time you tried to swim or make a new friend. It was scary, but you learned a valuable life lesson and skill. - Focus on the process of learning. It is where the actual growth occurs. If you are not scared or uncomfortable when you are doing something, the chances are you are not learning anything new. Embrace the lessons!