What If I Am Not Sure If I Fit In My Life?

Summary

  • If you are asking this question, the chances are you probably don’t fit in. An analogy is like a seed trying to root itself in the ground. As the seed sprouts, it starts to form its own shape. You can’t predict the exact shape of a tree by looking at the seed, but you can tell it’s going to become a tree. Asking this question “What if I am not sure if I fit in my life?” is saying I’m a seed, but it doesn’t feel right in the dirt. The answer is because you haven’t grow into it yet.
  • We are limited by what we know.
    • If I always only order one thing on a menu, I would always only know that one taste. We have to try to discover our fit and preference. - Being afraid of uncertainties or new things is honestly a crutch. The life is comfortable and safer, but that’s it. Your experiences are less, and you become limited by what you know. As a result from not knowing much about the world or your preference, you won’t know yourself that well. A more truthful statement would be “I am not sure if I fit into my life, because I don’t know enough to know what fits my life.”
  • Uncertainty is ok, but do something to clear the fog.
    • I seen a lot of people that have problems they complain about, but they don’t do anything to change it. - Every day is a new opportunity. When we are uncertain about something in our lives, figuratively we are standing in midst of a fog. In order to get out of the fog, you need to walk to get outside. Yeah, you don’t know what direction, but doing nothing will get you no where. But a lot of us are just sitting there. You have to take action to get out of the fog!
    • It’s ok to not feel certain, but take action to change that. - Actions are the only thing that causes change. You can think, plan, and schedule, but no execution, no progress. Even if it’s small steps, make the actions consistent. There are few instances in life where you will have 100% assurance. It’s ok to take actions when you are uncertain. There is quote that says, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
  • There isn’t perfect, only priorities.
    • There is no such thing as perfect. In life there has to be certain things that you prioritize so your more important goals are achieved. Rarely does everything you want comes in perfectly. - We only have 24 hours a day, and time is ticking. There are only so many things we can focus on, so we have to prioritize. Maybe we love to play piano and design artworks. However, to specialize, we have to prioritize on one. Just one. If there isn’t a clear singular goal, your efforts will be all over the place. Time is still running, so focus that energy.
    • Choose your priority, and be prepare to give up less important things.