Summary

We all know what you feels like to keep a secret. A secret that would ruin your whole life. It makes you walk on egg shells all the time, and scared to do anything that would reveal your secret. It’s the worst when the secret is you. You are afraid that if you talk to others and they saw the real you, they would run away. The answer? You pretend to be someone else to talk with other people. But that doesn’t stop the real you from showing itself, because you can’t hide yourself. You know it, and I know it. But…what can we do to?
Everyday is a new opportunity to change.
- Always the same scenario. I am an accident waiting to happen. Time bomb. - The time waiting for the time bomb to explode is more nerve-wracking than the actual explosion. The mentality of being in constant fear ruins your life. The worst part is for us the object of fear is us. And you can’t run away from yourself, so you will always be afraid. Always be in fear.
- Lose-lose situation - When you are in this mentality, you are either you're waiting for the bomb to explode or it already exploded. These are the only 2 options, so you’ll never be happy. It’s either lose or waiting to lose. If you want to feel good about yourself and change, you have change the situation. You need to have a situation where you win. Example: I win when I am honest with myself. So when I go out there and doesn’t matter how people respond to me, as long as I am honest with myself, I am happy.
Accept the real you.
- Being in synch with who you are gives you peace. - If your motivations and values align, you have integrity within yourself. When we avoid or hate ourselves, we don’t even have a chance to understand our own motivations and values. Without it, we won’t have integrity within us. Without integrity, there is no peace. When you accept the real you, you don’t feel like you have to change. You are at peace with yourself. Do you have peace?
Set a future for yourself.
- A person not dreaming of a future remains at the same place. - Unless we set a direction for our life, we are just wanderers. I’m pretty sure all of us have gotten lost at one point. No map, no directions, no progress. Without direction, our lives are confused. How does this relate to our fear of revealing who we are? Well, if we let ourselves stay in this state of fear, we are lost. We have no intention of moving pass this situation. A clear destination of who we want to become in the future and consistent pursuit towards it will help you break out of your current situation. If you don’t want to be afraid of people knowing the real you, you have to work towards a future that doesn’t have that. The beginning of that path is acceptance of yourself.