Summary
- Ever jumped into a friendship or a relationship a little too fast, because the person just seemed so perfect? Our brain plays a little trick on us sometimes. If we like someone, everything that they do is romanticized. It almost seemed like they could do no wrong. Our emotional brain takes over and tells us that this is a nice, trustworthy person. Be aware of our own tendencies to beautify people or groups of people because they seem nice, mature, or attractive. This is to prevent ourselves from making mistakes.
- Are you clear on your identity?
- Beauty affects our perception of trustworthiness. - There is something called the anchoring effect, where you base your perception of someone on your first contact with them. Basically, first impressions affect how someone views you by a decent amount. If a person looks attractive, we might assume he or she is also honest, trustworthy, caring, friendly, etc. If another person looks scary, we might think he or she is dangerous, violent, angry, unstable, etc. Because of this effect, we need to be careful in not trusting people too quickly.
- All because someone looks good doesn’t mean they are trustworthy.
- We let strangers be the critics of our self worth.
- Sometimes when we first meet new cool person, in our minds we’re like “This person is amazing! Does this person like me? Am I good enough?” - Before anything even happened, we already submit ourselves to this person’s evaluation of us. Kind of scary sometimes… We have to actively guard our thoughts and realign our self worth with how WE see ourselves.
- Beauty affects our perception of trustworthiness. - There is something called the anchoring effect, where you base your perception of someone on your first contact with them. Basically, first impressions affect how someone views you by a decent amount. If a person looks attractive, we might assume he or she is also honest, trustworthy, caring, friendly, etc. If another person looks scary, we might think he or she is dangerous, violent, angry, unstable, etc. Because of this effect, we need to be careful in not trusting people too quickly.
- Trust people logically before emotionally.
- Sharing too much too fast, especially emotionally, can ground us in the wrong place. - Ever agreed to something too fast and wondered how did I get here? This is the emotional fast track. We have to slow the emotions down and see what our logic side thinks about the situation before making any other decisions.
- When we are emotionally involved, we become dumber. - We have all experience this! Saying things we shouldn’t have said when we were angry or staying in a relationship much longer than we should have. We are much better evaluators when we are not the one IN the situation. Before you let yourself get emotionally get involved, make sure you are logically protecting yourself first.
- Generally, the younger you are, the less experience you have in managing your emotions. That’s why it’s good to seek counsel sometimes. - Let your close friends and family members be your trusted counsel. Train your emotional muscle and learn to not act on impulse. Learn to be aware of when an emotion is taking over your mind and remain calm. The more you train your awareness, the more you gain control over your emotional decisions.
