Summary
- Feeling the awkward silence? Or trying to fill the awkward silence up with something? That just sounds even more awkward. Not knowing what to talk about can make the situation a little awkward, but what’s more important is what this reveals about ourselves and the other person. Is there chemistry between you guys? Are you making the conversation awkward? Is the other person simply not interested? There is more to understand and explore from this awkwardness. Here I’ll talk about a few of these possibilities.
- The right audience will respond to the right person.
- Conversation is a two-way street. If only you want to talk, it’s probably best to find another conversation. - We often find and try to use other people’s response as an evaluation for our self worth rather than a learning experience. Choosing the right person to talk with allows for good conversations even if it is awkward. Awkward just happens from time to time, but what is more important is this: is the person you are talking with someone that you can see becoming your friend? Picking the right person to be around you often solves most of the relational problems in your life.
- Interests and passions are nurtured.
- Discover who you are. Learn to pick up different kind of hobbies. If you are a guy, don’t just play video games. - Explore to the entirety of your humanity. God made us to be wonderful and amazing, and definitely not just for us to sit around and watch netflix all day. There are much more rewarding experiences out there if you want to discover who you are. Make it part of your journey to discover your strengths. Life unexplored is one un-lived.
- Develop yourself and have opinions. - Learn to have preferences. Not for the sake for being picky or arrogant, but for identifying what makes you YOU. It’s not bad to know that you like chocolate and not vanilla ice cream. Or... like listening to music than hiking up a trail. This is part of becoming you. The more you allow yourself to express who you are the more you know yourself.
- Don’t just spend time talking. Get to know the other person too.
- Try to learn about the other person genuinely, and not just waiting your turn to speak. If you go and only talk about yourself, one day you’ll wonder why you don’t have much friends. It’s a mutual relationship. - In general, we often like to talk about ourselves more. Spend some time to think outside of ourselves and think about how the other person feels. Ask yourself this question: Does this person feel heard when talking to me? When we make the other person feel heard, they are more likely listen to us too. This is how a connection begins.
