I think at some point in our lives we’ve probably avoided talking to some people for whatever reason. Things got awkward or that person pisses you off. There are numerous amount of reasons for it. Sometimes, it might be unavoidable and even the only solution.

Here, we’re not talking about stalkers or aggressors that will attack you if they don’t like you. We're talking about you not like to receive attention in general.

We want to talk about the situations where you could do nothing but avoid the attention of other people. Any attention. Good, bad, confusing.

Any attention just makes you nervous.

Here are some of the things you might be doing -

- Pretending to be doing something else - Common tactic. Pretending to be busy so you don’t have to talk to them. Trying to be busy when you’re not. just to avoid that contact. avoid communication

- Avoiding eye contact - When you don't physically look at the person, it gives them less permission to talk to you. You are hoping by not acknowledging their presence that they will do the same.

- Lowering your head - This is to make your presence smaller. Almost as if you were trying to hide.

- Taking a detour - We’ll do some ridiculous things to try to avoid any awkwardness. For example, deliberately waiting in the bathroom until the crowd is gone then coming out or taking a long detour to avoid the person.

Mistakes can be pretty embarrassing. Yet, you can't mature without mistakes.

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What are you trying to avoid?

- Intimacy - Are you actually afraid of people trying to get to know you? If you are trying to avoid intimacy with a person, you will be pretty miserable in your relationships. The whole point of relationships is to get close to someone and for that person to know and accept you for who you are.

- Making mistakes - Mistakes can be pretty embarrassing. We usually would shy away from things that would make us look bad or feel bad. Yet, you can't mature without mistakes.

- Being happy - When you don’t think you deserve happiness, you throw away that happiness. If it comes to you, you dodge it and avoid it.

- Fears you have in the past - We all have our own emotional baggages and maybe we’re not ready to face some of them in the past. However, these baggages will affect all of our relationships until we have dealt with them.

- Yourself - The most impossible thing to avoid, yet so many people still try to do. If you hate yourself, it's a never-ending cycle of self-degradation.

Now, evaluate yourself. Which of these things are you avoiding?

First Step -

I avoid attention from people because __________.

- Augustus

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