Summary

Emotional wounds trap us in a portion of our past.
- A very painful experience can be the stopping point for growing our confidence, but it doesn’t have to be.
  - Every time you think about it, it hurts a lot. You want to hide under a rock and avoid the pain. This is very real, and this is also where we stop in life.
    - No one enjoys pain [except maybe a masochist, but that’s a different story.]. We have a smart brain, and it protects us by moving us away from pain. It’s like a nice parent wanting his/she child to be safe. HOWEVER, if the parent becomes overprotective… this is where the problem starts. Rather than facing and working through healing the pain, they just protect you from ANY pain. As a result, we become people that are scared of failure. This limits our growth and confidence.
- The importance of working through an emotional wound is often underrated. - Emotional wounds usually don’t heal by themselves like physical wounds, so they have to be sought out and cared for. Most of the time the society thinks “if they look fine on the outside, they are probably fine on the inside.” Nothing can be further from the truth.
- Your past is the best indication of your future, so why not work through healing your past.
- Past is not the future, so don’t allowed it to be.
Replaying a negative experience is often the way people bring their own confidence down through magnifying their weaknesses.
- You can’t gain confidence when you don’t have a good relationship with it. - “Just be confident.” “Just be yourself.” That’s what people usually say to help others become more confident. But if you don’t have a good relationship with confidence itself, nothing is going to change. If you haven’t experienced confidence, felt confidence, or prove to yourself that you can have confidence, you won’t have it. It’s like telling a beginner to join an advanced level yoga course. Not really helpful and setting yourself up for disappointment.
- Every time we replay an experience negatively in our brain, we get hurt all over again. We have to understand the experience, accept it, and move on from it.
- When you fall, don’t keep blaming yourself for tripping. Stand up and remind yourself not to trip again.
People are your most powerful support and harshest critic.
- If you are beside people who constantly bring you down, you would have spent more energy defending yourself than growing to be a stronger person. - Picking the right people is so important. Have you ever been around someone you feel like will judge EVERY little thing you do? Tiring right? They might be good people, but you want your closest friends to be the ones that you can be yourself around.
- We become like the people closest to us.
- Friends influence us more than you think, good or bad. They influence our decisions, the way we think about ourselves, and our potential. - They say we become the average of the 5 people closest to us. You can believe it or not, but we share the way we think all the time with our friends. The more time we spend together; the more our beliefs mesh together. If they are positive people, you get more positive. If they are not…. you probably won’t be either.
- Friends who encourage you and build you up are rare finds. Keep them.