Summary

How many times have we talked with someone that isn’t listening? Or the person just isn’t trying anymore? You are doing all the heavy lifting. If you don’t try, nothing happens. But you keep on going, because this relationship is important to you. When does change happen? Will this person or the relationship ever change?
Relationship is mutual, so something is off.
- All relationships have to be maintained. All relationships take work. Over time emotions will die down and sometimes other thing start to interfere. The bottom line is always it’s a mutual relationship. When one side stops trying, it stops being a relationship. We don’t have control over the other person, so we have to know if they are on the same page as us.
Try to understand the reason behind it.
- This doesn’t mean being pushy or trying to interrogate the person. It means take your time to empathize with how he/she is feeling. Does the person feel lost? drained? tired? frustrated? When the other person feels like you connect with them emotionally, the person will be more willing to share the real reason. It might not be the reason we want to hear. It may not even be a good reason. But we have to remember it’s his/her reason. Not ours. We have to understand why to find a solution for it.
Only actions make changes.
- If you want movement, you have to act. The more we drag things out the less time we have to do everything else and the shorter our future becomes. Be decisive and followthrough with your decisions. Most of the time we don’t want to face the decisions because it’s hard. Indecision hurts everyone.