Summary

"No one would care if I just disappeared." "I am not needed.” These are some of the things you might have been saying to yourself. Feeling unloved, rejected, excluded. As people,we have emotional needs. We shouldn’t hate ourselves for wanting to be needed nor should we desperately long for need at all cost. Where is the balance between the two?
Younger tend to look for outside source of validation.
- Life education is something that isn’t taught actively or emphasized. Academics become the indication for success. Your sense of value rests on the view that you see yourself as. When we are younger, we are actively learning about the world around us, so we look for others to affirm our actions. Now, we have the capability to be the source of validation for ourselves. Have the outlook that your opinions are valuable also. We don’t have to constantly look for someone to give us permission to take action. Feeling worthless is the opposite of it. The worthlessness comes from placing too much worth on how others think about you.
It’s ok to feel needed, but it shouldn’t dictate our actions.
- Always make your actions your own. If you are already feeling worthless, you are likely to overexert yourself to get acceptance from the group. This puts you in a dangerous spot and at the mercy of the group. Take this opportunity to build up your identity first then rejoin a good group.