Do You Trust Your Heart?

Summary

  • “Just follow your heart.” That’s what people say all the time. It make sense in some situations like choosing a hobby or your ice cream flavor, but not when you are making huge important decision for your life. I get it. You still have to go with your passion and what you enjoy in your decisions, but you also need to consider the practical consequences to your choices. You can choose a very good looking partner with anger issues, but our hearts tell us that we should just go for it anyways. You see an amazing looking chocolate cake [full of sugar!], but you heart wants it bad. Do you follow your heart or your brain? There has to be a balance. Emotions are wonderful creations. We feel all different sensations through our bodies. But I’ll say this when making an important decision, sleep on it first. Then revisit the it with clear eyes and mind.
  • Never make decisions based on how you feel. Feelings come and go, but results will remain.
    • Ever had an impulse purchase? That is exactly what I’m talking about. - Emotions comes in bursts. So vivid and alive! It can make everything seem fabulous, even the wrong choices. Just for a slight second suddenly spending $400 on a pair of limited edition shoes seems….somewhat ok. I think. Even though I have rent to pay for. That...my friend is the influence of emotions. Trying to get to the grocery store in the middle of a thunderstorm? That's us making a decision filled with emotions. Whatever decisions we make, we have to take on all the responsibilities and consequences of them. That’s how we grow. Now you can see why I strong advise against making quick and impulsive decisions. 
  • Feelings decorate our experiences but cloud our judgments.
    • "Love: A grave mental illness" - Plato - Love is described as just feeling almost possessed. Lovestruck. Head over heels. Don’t get me wrong. Love is great. We need love, but emotions can literally change us as a person. When anger takes over someone, the transformation is almost like Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde. Emotions have the ability to intensify our experiences to the utmost. In both cases of love and anger, emotions still expresses who we are as people, but we are at the mercy of them if they take over. There are so amazing paintings and artworks made as a product of emotions. It has creativity and potential, but not judgment. Making a good decision requires our logical side. Planning, scheduling, evaluation, and self control. The logical side is the side we must rely on for selecting the best choices.
    • Feelings are like puppies. Wonderful, unpredictable, but you need to keep in check. - Can you control emotions.? The answer is yes. Why are we having so much problem then? Most of us don’t know how to control it. Emotional intelligence is getting more and more attention in the modern era, because it matters in the long run. If you are super smart but can’t work with anyone at all, who would want to hire you? Understanding how to manage and maintain our emotions is the key to having more freedom. I’m not saying have NO emotions! Manage your emotions. Self control.