Summary
- It’s nice to have a friend who supports you when you’re down and be there for your victories. Why is it so hard to find them these days? They looks so easy to find in movies and books, but how is it that in real life they seem so tough to find. Here, I’m not talking about the friends who are only around you when everything is ok. I’m talking about the ones that will stick their neck out for you through the tough times. It’s the individuals that want to see YOU succeed even more than them. To me, that is true friendship.
- Friendship has to be formed on trust.
- You cannot form genuine friendships from gossip partners. - All the people coming together to talk behind other people’s back have mistrust in common. What holds them together isn’t friendship, it’s a common enemy. When the enemy is gone, all bets are off. They might even go against each other. The friendship you want to form has to be from a place of mutual affection and trust. Move away from gossipers, because chances are they are probably gossiping about you too.
- Popularity doesn’t determine the amount of true friendships that you have. - All because someone is popular doesn’t mean he or she has a lot of friends. The person might have a crowd because of good looks, money, or intelligence, but that’s not friendship. The people are around him or her just to get something. That’s why sometimes these people can be the loneliest person in the community.
- Too busy for friendship.
- You have to put yourself in positions to find good friendships to get them. Usually good friends don’t come running to you, because others like them too. - We can’t find people, since our lives don’t cross! If we want our lives to cross with awesome people, we need to change our lives. We might need to join a book club or a fitness gym. Exploring the locations and making yourself available for friendship is crucial. I know sometimes we don’t have enough time because of family, but maybe even small tweaks within your social circle might just be the thing you need.
- Not everyone is going to be friends with everyone else.
- The truth is not everyone will like everyone, so don’t force a relationship. - When someone doesn’t like us, don’t forget the possibility that we might just not be compatible. Don’t just jump to the conclusion: something is WRONG with me! The reason might actually just be: nothing is wrong with you, the person just prefers to hang out with cricket players. You get my point. Don’t take it personally, and just keep on the path to finding that great friend, which will bring so much more joy and support into your life.
