Summary

Our natural instincts is to want to be accepted by our core community.
- To be isolated is extremely painful.
  - Just imagine at how much it hurt to be excluded from a party that you wanted to be in.
- We want to think of ourselves in a certain way to be accepted by people around us.
- If we are real with ourselves and the people around us, we might be excluded from the group.
- We don’t acknowledge everything about us, because we don’t want to be different than the group. Different is usually excluded.
Cognitive Bias - Basically ways that our brain naturally thinks. Automatic.
- We always assume the good things that happens to us is because of us. If bad things happen, it’s not really our fault.
- By natural, our brain skew things to our advantage.
- Not a good job on a project at work, it’s always other people’s fault. Never your fault.
Avoid truth because it hurts.
- Instinctively we avoid things that we don’t like.
  - Annoying people. Topic you don’t like. Truth about who you are.
- By not hearing the whole truth, we can continue to live in a fake world where we like being in.
- Truth hurts, so that means you are emotionally hurt somewhere.
- If you have a huge cut on your hand, do you just ignore it? No. You treat it.
How do we change this? Decide to be you.
- If you like drawing, then draw. It might be painful to be excluded, but it’s more painful to feel like you have to constantly change yourself to be part of the group.
- Being the real you means facing every part of you and not just the nice parts, because we all have flaws. The only difference is we embrace the flaws and display our whole self.
Have an amazing day, and I’ll see you guys next time.