How many times have we had a failed friendship or relationship? And…especially in this generation where people are becoming increasingly flaky.

Yes, the reason can also be the super flaky person that always bails on you at the last minute. But right now, we are going to talk about how we can potentially be the ones contributing to the loss of our relationship.

Let’s be perfectly clear here. No one wants a failed relationship. Rarely do we go into any relationship saying to ourselves “I don’t want this to work.”

However, what does mess us up is our understanding of relationships.

All of us came from different background that taught us what a relationship is suppose to look like. Most of the time, these lessons about relationship are subconsciously taught also.

If we saw our parents fighting all the time, we might start to think relationship are painful. If we are abandoned by our parents at a young age, we could spend the rest of our lives trying to prove others our self worth through relationships.

These experiences are endless. The way we perceive relationships will ultimately influence how we form our future relationships. So if we don’t take time to sort out our emotional baggages from our past, those baggages will carry over and ruin your future too.

What Can We Do Right Now?

Lean into your emotional baggages. You know all those secrets you had in the past? It’s time to dig them up and face them. As long as we are avoiding relational problems in our life, we can’t come clean.

The general steps are: Face the conflict, accept the entirety of the truth and forgive what you hold bitter.

These steps are hard, but you have to go through them by yourself or with a therapist in order to be free from the baggage.