Summary
- I am always the odd one out. It feels like I just don’t act the same way as other people. I dress weird. I act weird. I don’t even comfortable being myself. I am just not normal. I want to be normal, and be like everyone else. Go to see movies, hang out together, and go to try new foods. Why can’t I be like them? It’s tough trying to fit in all the time. Now, I just know they won’t like me. After trying so many times. It’s the same result every time!
- Normal is overrated. Be true to yourself.
- Everyone want to be like everyone else when being yourself is the most freeing. - Why do you want to be like everyone else? As people, we actually want to be significant. We want to be known for who we are. We want to be seen, understood, and acknowledged. However, we also want to be part of a group. Communities. Doesn’t have to be big. Even just a few close friends to hang out with is fine. The conflicting desires between wanting to be yourself and wanting to be in community are inside of us every day. But what kind of person do you want to be? To use a Star Wars analogy! Do you want to be a stormtrooper or a Jedi? You can barely tell the difference between the first stormtrooper and the next one while every Jedi has his or her own style. Being in a group gives you comfort, security, and acceptance. These are good things, but you can’t let the group be your primary identity. Your identity has to be from knowing who you are as a person FIRST. Then joining a group is fine.
- Don’t be ashamed of your uniqueness.
- You mind is often a bigger limitation than your actual flaws. - The common notion is that flaws ruin your life. However, the mental road blocks from our flaws are usually what is stopping us from being ourselves. You can see famous celebrities with notable flaws, but they are able to bypass the flaws and own their individuality. Confidence in knowing your identity and accepting your uniqueness is the path to maturity.
- Kevin Hart, comedian - 5’4”, even I’m taller than him.
- Stephen Hawking - in a wheelchair, can’t talk, and he is one of the top physicists in the world.
- You mind is often a bigger limitation than your actual flaws. - The common notion is that flaws ruin your life. However, the mental road blocks from our flaws are usually what is stopping us from being ourselves. You can see famous celebrities with notable flaws, but they are able to bypass the flaws and own their individuality. Confidence in knowing your identity and accepting your uniqueness is the path to maturity.
- When we start to appreciate our uniqueness, our true self begins.
- Most of our lives we spent trying to understand who we are as a person. Our parents, teachers, friends all teach us who we are. However, not all the lessons taught were helpful. We might find ourselves rejecting parts of ourselves in order to be accepted by our community. Though our true self appears when we become an independent unit on our on.
